Not so smart!!

I think I have had a wonderful life. Its been a life full of extreme experiences, thrills, great times, not so great times. As I sit and reflect now...I believe I have always come out of it on the top. I made tonnes of mistakes and learn t, and that is learnt real fast.

Have you made huge statements like - phew now that that is over, I think I can handle anything that comes my way. I am smart and knowledgeable and (eer...) invincible, so nothing can go wrong. Well have you also smiled at that later thinking how naive you were. Trust me and my over bearing self, I have oft thought it that way and laughed at my self later.

For my lifetime or whatever recollection I have of it, I have always thought about how every individual in a relationship - could be with friends, siblings, parents and most of all spouses should all have independent lives. Parents must not interfere too much in their childrens affairs and vice versa, a husband and a wife must also (not only) have their own group of friends and also go out with them independently.

I had the opportunity to interact with some beautiful souls. These guys are people who are fighting hard to get over some addiction. In my books they are not much different from those successful guys who own billion dollar companies..trust me when I say this..there is that element which is unknown which makes the world go around I guess thats responsible...not just for your failures, but also for your success.

Now when u are fighting to give up alcohol or drugs...its easy to slip. Its that 30 seconds which if you can control, the urge vanishes and you can be clean afterwards...Its just that 30 seconds which makes all the difference and the stakes here are large.

Folks we all have to learn this about life and I must say I need to keep this lesson in mind. Its just that 30 seconds to control that urge to say something mean or hurtful, its just that 30 seconds to not eat that lovely scrumptious looking doughnut, and its just that 30 seconds for you to control your anger which is usually mis guided anyways.

Late one night while watching a football match, I ate 2 scoops of ice cream, trust me...i needn't have and somewhere didnt want to...but the urge!!! Its this urge that I am talking about.

I may go a step ahead and say...we all get numerous thoughts in our head...positive as well as negative thoughts, some make you think that you have lost it. Folks...I think its our mind and the effort it makes that is the problem, it tries to fight against those negative thoughts. A thought is a thought...if we just let it come and go...its gone...whats the big deal. Its just when we attribute some 10,000 other thoughts to it...does it persist.

You know..you may have all the knowledge in the world, yet that fact is that you slip. I did...and I am not as smart as I thought I was.