The world has crashed around you...are you sure?

How many times in life have we felt the world has crashed around you?

Be it a great job which you had to leave for reasons beyond your control like a maniac of a boss or a partner you cant have because you or he did not realize the significance of what you shared or that you'll did not stand up against external factors.

But did the world really crash? Did anything untoward happen? If I reflect over the years...all that happened in the past, all the choices that i made or all the choices that were made even if i was not convinced or agreed with them have led me to be in the place that I am right now and be the person that I am. If I am able to look in the mirror and say I am contented with myself and happy the way things are now...there is no reason to even wonder that choices were incorrect. It was just me who didnt have the farsightedness to see what I was going to be.

Then the other question is...should one be averse to let things happen now based on experiences of the past? If we are, arent we affecting the person that we are going to become in the future. So if you dont get the feeling that the world has crashed around you..maybe once a year...is that a indication of the fact that you are preventing yourself from being who you really can be.

It is said pain is a happening, but suffering is a choice. We can feel pain but we need not suffer.