I learnt -
1) If you put your heart in your work..there will be tonnes of people who will tear it out..why do I still do it?
2) Scavengers of the corporate world roam about in disguises.
3) I am never able to say anything mean when the person who has said something hurtful deserves to hear it. I can think of a lot of things to say post the moment passes..
4) Insecure people are worse to work with than arrogant especially if they are your seniors. (maybe its a camouflage of the same emotion)
5) Inertia is a strong word
6) So is money...in fact stronger.
7) I have not yet found what I am looking for in terms of work...but I know that it exists...
8) Not everyone is like you and 98% of people you work with do not realize this.
9) The ability to put yourself in another one's shoe is with just a handful of people and you can always count them on your fingers.
10) You should only leave when you are doing extremely well and not when you are not...
11) You make very few real relationships at work..maybe just a couple and definitely not more.
12) A work relationship is very transactional and hence people give just 20% of themselves to the output.
13) The few people who are able to reach the person beyond just a transaction actually transform lives and make the iphones.
14) Its of no use taking anything from work back home...more work or emotion...all should be left at office before you start that car.
P.S: Now you know how angry I might be currently..Thanks folks that was a fantastic venting out for me
Wednesday, February 13, 2008
Sunday, February 03, 2008
The intention theory
I was at dinner at this awesome Chinese joint in Bandra (forgive me for forgetting the name...but it is worth mentioning as the food was really awesome) with family and some one casually mentioned the words...' yes thats the intention theory'....a lovely term for this blog.
For the past few years...these thoughts have repeatedly come to my mind. The surprising thing is that recently wherever I go...there is a mention of it. It magically comes up and gets affirmed by way of a book i read or someone else having experienced it or just talking about it. Signs the universe is giving I guess.
But yes...its rather miraculous...if you really want something...all you need to do is wish for it.
Ok this is my take on what some of us might have experienced....Its crazy how we humans do not at most times really know what we wish for. There is a disagreement between our conscious mind and our inner self on what we really want. Since we only realize what our conscious mind is saying and its usually cluttered by an overload of information - conditioning, society do's and don'ts, family/friends/colleagues and their thoughts etc etc...we feel that this is what we want when we do not really want it. And when we don't get what we think we want...we get into this entire circle of despair at various levels. We miss the point that the inner self really did not want it...so has created circumstances ,which the conscious mind is unable to comprehend, which ensures that we do not get it.
Well whats the use one might ask. If we think that we want it and we do not get it and have to go through despair...whats the use of the entire wishing business.
:) All I can say is that if you have not got the point...too bad. A clue I can give is focus on the inner self..get to know it...and you will get whatever it is that you truly have wished for...whether it is a billion dollars or a beach house on an exotic island...or maybe you want to be that one person who makes a difference to a million lives....
I lately have put a number to the amount of money I want by 2010...I now have a sneaky feeling that this wish may be corroded by friends I interact with daily(hopefully not)....I think I need to know what is it that I wish for...what is it that I am going to definitely get.....a paradox is'nt it ;)
For the past few years...these thoughts have repeatedly come to my mind. The surprising thing is that recently wherever I go...there is a mention of it. It magically comes up and gets affirmed by way of a book i read or someone else having experienced it or just talking about it. Signs the universe is giving I guess.
But yes...its rather miraculous...if you really want something...all you need to do is wish for it.
Ok this is my take on what some of us might have experienced....Its crazy how we humans do not at most times really know what we wish for. There is a disagreement between our conscious mind and our inner self on what we really want. Since we only realize what our conscious mind is saying and its usually cluttered by an overload of information - conditioning, society do's and don'ts, family/friends/colleagues and their thoughts etc etc...we feel that this is what we want when we do not really want it. And when we don't get what we think we want...we get into this entire circle of despair at various levels. We miss the point that the inner self really did not want it...so has created circumstances ,which the conscious mind is unable to comprehend, which ensures that we do not get it.
Well whats the use one might ask. If we think that we want it and we do not get it and have to go through despair...whats the use of the entire wishing business.
:) All I can say is that if you have not got the point...too bad. A clue I can give is focus on the inner self..get to know it...and you will get whatever it is that you truly have wished for...whether it is a billion dollars or a beach house on an exotic island...or maybe you want to be that one person who makes a difference to a million lives....
I lately have put a number to the amount of money I want by 2010...I now have a sneaky feeling that this wish may be corroded by friends I interact with daily(hopefully not)....I think I need to know what is it that I wish for...what is it that I am going to definitely get.....a paradox is'nt it ;)
The next step
Folks...its a funny feeling, open questions which I was struggling for years got answered and the ease is what amazes me. Like a great man said...if you have a question that you are unable to find answers for stay with it...it will come to you. Patience is the greatest virtue I tell you.
You may ask..what questions are these..which were so critical that I looked for answers for years?...well the wonder is that if you ask me I do not even remember..knowledge gained assimilates in your life like the air you breathe....you are not even conscious that its there...but you do feel uplifted.
And you know what else have I realized...that the same questions if asked to me by someone else...I would be clueless as to what should I say...and even if I attempt an answer, it would be quite meaningless to the person asking. I don't think I would even want to answer. Everyone finds their own answers...you can only be a catalyst and I have realized you are usually a catalyst when you don't intend to be one. Just be yourself...full stop. Who ever wants to pick up whatever from the person you are will do so without you trying to explain it.
Well now what one might wonder...if you ask me...I do not have a clue. The search continues...and this time it would be for better ways to celebrate life. Questions like the purpose of my life, I am in no hurry to know.
You may ask..what questions are these..which were so critical that I looked for answers for years?...well the wonder is that if you ask me I do not even remember..knowledge gained assimilates in your life like the air you breathe....you are not even conscious that its there...but you do feel uplifted.
And you know what else have I realized...that the same questions if asked to me by someone else...I would be clueless as to what should I say...and even if I attempt an answer, it would be quite meaningless to the person asking. I don't think I would even want to answer. Everyone finds their own answers...you can only be a catalyst and I have realized you are usually a catalyst when you don't intend to be one. Just be yourself...full stop. Who ever wants to pick up whatever from the person you are will do so without you trying to explain it.
Well now what one might wonder...if you ask me...I do not have a clue. The search continues...and this time it would be for better ways to celebrate life. Questions like the purpose of my life, I am in no hurry to know.
Sunday, November 18, 2007
Yes...it does makes a world of difference
There are so many worlds...
Victors world is full of fun, he made a lot of money, he loves his wife, he parties..he travels. He has seen ups and downs and has learnt how to handle them. He enjoys every day that comes. Yes there are boring days..but thats alright...he has his eye on how to have fun.
Kens world is perfect, so it appears..he has lovely kids, a great job, a beautiful wife..yet somewhere he wonders if he has forgotten himself...why this feeling of emptiness? He did exactly what his world said he must do..then why is he feeling that his life has no meaning now? Maybe somewhere he didnt question his world...maybe he lived in his dad's world and forgot to make a world of his own.
Sarah, bought up by very orthodox and simple parents turned out to be a beautiful modern day woman whose job is to shape the minds of the future of her country. She too questioned the values she was bought up with and came up with her own. She is certainly happy. There were times she almost gave up when she hit rock bottom..not an easy path questioning, experimenting...yet she is soaring high now.
There are maybe a billion worlds in this planet....but thats not what this post is about.
Its been a lovely journey...and its going to take a turn. A search of what seemed like a lifetime has ended. A different search needs to begin...maybe a more difficult search of the self....I think it just got easier to look within.....the yearning and excitement is difficult to contain as i wont be alone. Never one to enjoy working alone...I certainly did a good job of living alone.
I am waiting to rediscover my world and it will be with some help...and yes it does make a world of difference.
Victors world is full of fun, he made a lot of money, he loves his wife, he parties..he travels. He has seen ups and downs and has learnt how to handle them. He enjoys every day that comes. Yes there are boring days..but thats alright...he has his eye on how to have fun.
Kens world is perfect, so it appears..he has lovely kids, a great job, a beautiful wife..yet somewhere he wonders if he has forgotten himself...why this feeling of emptiness? He did exactly what his world said he must do..then why is he feeling that his life has no meaning now? Maybe somewhere he didnt question his world...maybe he lived in his dad's world and forgot to make a world of his own.
Sarah, bought up by very orthodox and simple parents turned out to be a beautiful modern day woman whose job is to shape the minds of the future of her country. She too questioned the values she was bought up with and came up with her own. She is certainly happy. There were times she almost gave up when she hit rock bottom..not an easy path questioning, experimenting...yet she is soaring high now.
There are maybe a billion worlds in this planet....but thats not what this post is about.
Its been a lovely journey...and its going to take a turn. A search of what seemed like a lifetime has ended. A different search needs to begin...maybe a more difficult search of the self....I think it just got easier to look within.....the yearning and excitement is difficult to contain as i wont be alone. Never one to enjoy working alone...I certainly did a good job of living alone.
I am waiting to rediscover my world and it will be with some help...and yes it does make a world of difference.
Tuesday, October 23, 2007
Mumbai meri jaan
Well its been a month!!! since I have written and I chose a topic which in some rights is mundane...according to my boss is irrelevant, but will make a huge difference to my life in the coming years.
Mumbai or Delhi...
Well...I still maintain that I do not belong to any one city, but have lived in Mumbai for 15 years and in Delhi for 3.5
Well the years is not as skewed as it appears as the first 10 years in Mumbai were school and just 5 were grown up working years.
Let me compare it as I see it.
1a) I love the sea, I love bhel puri and I absolutely love vada pav. I love bandra causeway and worli sea face.
1b) I have no love for GK or southex or chandani chowk. Chola batura is too fattening for my taste and parathas are approx 500 cals per paratha if you have them with butter, without which its not necessary to eat a paratha.
2a) I love driving to pune where close cousins reside..as well as there is thousand oaks and some great restaurants I visit.
2b) Rishikesh is too far to drive, Jaipur is a 6 hr drive...and doesnt make sense for shopping.
3a) I love walking on bandstand and the music played in Hawain shack and lately Hardrock which opened after i left. Numerous options in Mumbai
3b) If you walk, you might get molly coddled, so you got to stick to your sector's man made park. the only place I can bear is TC
4a) I hated driving 3.5 hrs a day and having no life other than work
4b) I love driving 10 minutes a day and reaching home at 7.00pm and waking up at 8.00am.
5a) In 5 yrs I made 6 very close friends based on a personality match
5b) In 3.5 yrs I made 2
6a) A ticket to Goa now costs Rs 4000
6b) A ticket to Goa costs Rs 8000 if lucky
7a) Will pay Rs 20000 and live in a 800 sqft 2BHK may be with the works mentioned below..maybe not
7b) Will pay Rs 20000 and live in a 1500 sq ft 3BHK in a super society which has pools, squash courts, a gym, tennis courts and a great running park. (my my - however money has never been a consideration in my life)
8a) Love the weather 4 months in a year only, but the rains beat down upon you while the roads and traffic is always a mess
8b) Love the weather for maybe 8 months leaving the 2 months when its too hot or too cold, awesome roads, traffic is horrible not because its as much as mumbai but because the people are just too indecent.
9a) Never feel insecure while driving alone in the night
9b) Never drive in the night..the few times I have...god had to work hard to save me, literally.
10a) The vibrancy and feel of independence is intoxicating
10b) Have to struggle to maintain the feeling totally
Well...for lack of time will end it here..I miss so many things about mumbai and will not miss anything about delhi except traveling 10 minutes a day to work.
Finally delhi's been good for me however its not me the way mumbai was.
Mumbai or Delhi...
Well...I still maintain that I do not belong to any one city, but have lived in Mumbai for 15 years and in Delhi for 3.5
Well the years is not as skewed as it appears as the first 10 years in Mumbai were school and just 5 were grown up working years.
Let me compare it as I see it.
1a) I love the sea, I love bhel puri and I absolutely love vada pav. I love bandra causeway and worli sea face.
1b) I have no love for GK or southex or chandani chowk. Chola batura is too fattening for my taste and parathas are approx 500 cals per paratha if you have them with butter, without which its not necessary to eat a paratha.
2a) I love driving to pune where close cousins reside..as well as there is thousand oaks and some great restaurants I visit.
2b) Rishikesh is too far to drive, Jaipur is a 6 hr drive...and doesnt make sense for shopping.
3a) I love walking on bandstand and the music played in Hawain shack and lately Hardrock which opened after i left. Numerous options in Mumbai
3b) If you walk, you might get molly coddled, so you got to stick to your sector's man made park. the only place I can bear is TC
4a) I hated driving 3.5 hrs a day and having no life other than work
4b) I love driving 10 minutes a day and reaching home at 7.00pm and waking up at 8.00am.
5a) In 5 yrs I made 6 very close friends based on a personality match
5b) In 3.5 yrs I made 2
6a) A ticket to Goa now costs Rs 4000
6b) A ticket to Goa costs Rs 8000 if lucky
7a) Will pay Rs 20000 and live in a 800 sqft 2BHK may be with the works mentioned below..maybe not
7b) Will pay Rs 20000 and live in a 1500 sq ft 3BHK in a super society which has pools, squash courts, a gym, tennis courts and a great running park. (my my - however money has never been a consideration in my life)
8a) Love the weather 4 months in a year only, but the rains beat down upon you while the roads and traffic is always a mess
8b) Love the weather for maybe 8 months leaving the 2 months when its too hot or too cold, awesome roads, traffic is horrible not because its as much as mumbai but because the people are just too indecent.
9a) Never feel insecure while driving alone in the night
9b) Never drive in the night..the few times I have...god had to work hard to save me, literally.
10a) The vibrancy and feel of independence is intoxicating
10b) Have to struggle to maintain the feeling totally
Well...for lack of time will end it here..I miss so many things about mumbai and will not miss anything about delhi except traveling 10 minutes a day to work.
Finally delhi's been good for me however its not me the way mumbai was.
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