Hitting the nail on the head!

People think---without knowing---that they know. That is a great danger... A a few books they would have studied, and a few practices they might have made. They might have met a few people here and there, may have met a few saints, too. But then they start thinking they know it all, they have it all. And they start arguing, quoting the scriptures and arguing. Love cannot blossom in such a situation.

The Man in the mirror

One of the best songs ever written... How often do we look at ourselves in the mirror, how often have we seen the angel and the devil in us. Have we been able to accept both of them?

I have a few theories on peace -

a) The ability to dissociate yourself from a situation, feeling, thought etc.,.works till the time something out of the way comes around and you are back to square one. Its true problems in our lives are never the ones that we constantly worry about..but hit us at 4.00pm one fine day out of the blue...and there goes the peace.

b) The feeling after meditating...when you have been silent for hours...when all your energies are in a uniform flow and coincide with the cosmic energy..yeah I have felt it...till the time you dont have enough time to practice meditation and yet again you are back from where you started.

c) Yeah when things happen your way..you get the promotion or when someone has been very loving towards you..or when you go on that one holiday and stand alongside nature and experience the peace around you....well I think times when you are very happy are the same as times when you are very sad and your activity or the haze in your mind are exactly the same..just two sides of different coins...

Then where will one get long lasting peace which is unfazed by circumstances, environment, people, thoughts and feelings? Does such a thing exist?

I believe if I look at the person in the mirror and at any point of time am able to look her in the eye and said baby you did the best you could, based on the values you know and what you thought is the right thing to do...this will give you peace in moments that you need it the most. The others could just be a little difficult to sustain.

So I am starting with the Man in the mirror
and I am asking him to change his ways
And no message could have been any clearer
If you wanna make the world a better place to live
You look at yourself and make a change!!!

Gut or Desire?

We have all experienced unexplainable miracles in life.

Were you talking about someone and see that precisely then you get a call?
Were you planning to break up with someone and see that he called you just then...E.S.P.N. its like electromagnetic waves which are picked up by two people connected.

I have constantly believed in making decisions based on pure gut in life. There are times when you just know it will work out...be it a job related decision or a personal one..and then there are times when you know it will not, but as you desire it...you pretend that your gut says it will.

Is there a way to know the difference between a desire and a feeling that comes from almost no where? More questions...less answers.

I guess one can safely say that if you want something constantly its a desire, but just when you wake up...a fleeting moment of knowing tells you what will happen. These instincts come from nowhere usually on the stealth mode...but are loud and clear for you to pick up.

The world has crashed around you...are you sure?

How many times in life have we felt the world has crashed around you?

Be it a great job which you had to leave for reasons beyond your control like a maniac of a boss or a partner you cant have because you or he did not realize the significance of what you shared or that you'll did not stand up against external factors.

But did the world really crash? Did anything untoward happen? If I reflect over the years...all that happened in the past, all the choices that i made or all the choices that were made even if i was not convinced or agreed with them have led me to be in the place that I am right now and be the person that I am. If I am able to look in the mirror and say I am contented with myself and happy the way things are now...there is no reason to even wonder that choices were incorrect. It was just me who didnt have the farsightedness to see what I was going to be.

Then the other question is...should one be averse to let things happen now based on experiences of the past? If we are, arent we affecting the person that we are going to become in the future. So if you dont get the feeling that the world has crashed around you..maybe once a year...is that a indication of the fact that you are preventing yourself from being who you really can be.

It is said pain is a happening, but suffering is a choice. We can feel pain but we need not suffer.

Fragile Relationships

I once read a great man say radiate who you are. Words only create noise, they dont help in solving any problem or misunderstanding.

Which makes me think, in friendships, relationships with friends, family, loved ones....events good or bad, words said in anger, frustration, love etc are not important. When someone says I love you or I hate you, does it hold any importance? But in a sad moment when a colleague walks up and says...you dont look so good...come lets have coffee..isnt that a moment which is divine?

If i am friends with anyone for years, does an event in our life whether good or bad have the ability to shake that relationship? If it does maybe the premise was wrong or maybe you were wrong...wrong either in action, thought or speech. But is it important?

Do we as humans have the sensitivity and the intelligence to pick up the reason behind a wrong thought, action or speech?

In every event of misunderstanding with my friends and colleagues, I have always questioned if I got it wrong, or was it me, or if someone behaves in a manner not acceptable, what was the cause of that action. Several times I have concluded its my ignorance, and several times its the others. But is ignorance a good enough reason to dislike people?

In the larger spectrum of life..a person is so much bigger than events that have happened or an action that he has performed.

If I look at the universe and compare it with earth...a tiny dust particle in it and then delhi a tiny tiny city on that dust particle and me one of the millions living in it...does an event that has happened to me or anyone hold any significance? Looking it from that angle..the significance is minuscule, yet it becomes the most significant thought in our minds.

If we have been given the ability to comprehend the vastness of the universe...we have also been given the ability to comprehend the insignificance of events and words, yet our mind clings to the smallest thought giving it more importance then required.

I do believe that humans are not their thoughts, their feelings or their body...every human is that little point in himself that doesnt change. That self thats just the same whether you were a child or a grown human being...all people that come into your life, all events that have happened...have happened because you have drawn it. That sub conscious mind that works beyond what the conscious mind can comprehend works in conjunction with the cosmic energy has drawn them in our lives. The most powerful tool that our conscious mind has is sensitivity and rationality.

Till we realise the truth we need to make ourselves so sensitive that we pick up the reason behind someones actions and words and we also need to become rational enough to realise the insignificance of it in the larger picture of the life and the universe and then drop it!